Daytona Real Estate Training

Do You Make Decisions For Your Real Estate Buyers?

When I bought my first house..my agent made a lot of decisions for me...while we discussed offering price..one thing I knew..regardless of what the agent said I thought about my affordability.  Meaning..it was important to keep my payment at a certain place..that meant..if I could not keep my payment where I wanted it.  I had to keep looking...looking for a home that I could afford.

I didn't know much about obtaining a mortgage..or title insurance...it was OK..my REALTOR picked them for me..but if I knew then what I know now...would I have done things differently...you betcha! 

Do you as an agent make decisions for your real estate buyers? 

Be very very careful!

While many times we make price recommendations..maybe to negotiate..maybe to win..but in truth..our goal is to get a buyer into their dream house..sometimes agents forget that important piece of the puzzle..its not about the negotiations but about the buyer living in their dream home and able to pay for it..maintain it...and enjoy it.

Recently I was talking with someone who bought a house in Daytona Beach...they were angry..their agent selected their mortgage company...and their title company...and even worse..talked them into a higher payment...the maximum the buyer qualified for and just like myself...they told me they thought about affordability..and realized today...they should have never bought the house....they should have followed their gut....they didn't...because they looked at their agent...as a professional...as the expert.  

No their arm wasn't twisted but the agent dangled that darn carrot right under their nose...the increase in value carrot..the built in equity carrot.  HYPE-Hype...and more hype! 

They bought this house a year ago...and they were a Daytona Beach first time home buyer..who had no clue as to what to do except rely solely on their real estate agent.  Yesterday I viewed the house...potential short sale..possibly foreclosure but hopefully a loan modification! 

Even a year ago they over paid..and tomorrow they might very well be homeless!

As I chatted with them..I couldn't help but notice...they had trouble trusting me!

So the next time you sit with a buyer or seller..don't assume they have a problem with you...more than likely..they had a bad real estate experience...in the past...you know one of those experiences that make them look at all real estate agents..the same!

My best advice to Daytona Beach real estate buyers..make sure you can afford the monthly but more importantly make sure you make your own decisions..when you can own up to your own decisions...one thing is certain decisions that you make are easier to live with!

About The Author: Midori Miller is a Real Estate Trainer and writes and trains Real Estate Training and assists sellers in short sale situations. Midori is a Licensed Florida Real Estate Broker , License # BK645709 and a member of the Daytona Area Association of REALTORS. Midori is also an Activerain Ambassador...need assistance contact midorimiller@yahoo.com or (386)453-3236 today!

67 comments • Florida Real Estate Trainer | Daytona Beach After School Training | Midori • July 21 2009 11:58AM

Signing Up For Parenthood-The Contract is Forever!

My 22 year old son called me last week..he was extremely sick..and recently laid off..last man hired first to go..sorry about your luck but when business picks up you'll be the first man hired!  Great and not really comforting especially for a 22 year old impatient man! And especially not for his mom who is miles away!

I've seen this amazing transformation in him...in the past..he would have just packed his bags and come back home! In the past...he would have ripped into his employer for letting him go and in the past..he would have created holy havoc...because life wasn't going his way..

But he didn't and I am convinced he is his own man! :) 

So I asked the question....have you talked to your father?  NOPE...we can't communicate...we can't seem to deal with one another...mom he just doesn't like the man I've become.  Here we go...round 35 of differences between Bob and his dad!

So the kind words came out of my mouth...I don't know where they came from...all I know is the fact..I've been taught and brought up to take care of my own...regardless of circumstances...regardless of inconvenience and regardless of how I personally feel! 

"Bob, you know how your father is and you have to know that he loves you but he can't ever help you or even communicate with you if you don't put some effort into it...It's a two way street...and your dad..is a little narrow minded but you with your open mind can find the right words and actions to make things better!"

"Remember one thing...pay attention to what I am saying...you were raised by me....I was raised by grandma and paw paw.and he was raised by grammy and grampi..understand? Different generations..different perspectives of life....different thought processes....and remember your father loves you the best way he knows how!  You have to continue to build this relationship and one day..he will be gone...no shoulda...no woulda..no coulda...because you'll live your life filled with regrets!"

Bob understood and now to get his dad to understand..

I sent him a few bucks to get medicine and food and lots of word of encouragement..and then my next mission to talk to his dad!  There is a reason why my ex-husband is an ex and one of our biggest problems was communication..when I have to talk to him now..its not easy and there are days...I just want to jump through the phone.  But it seems even though we can't communicate..the message is recieved loud and clear!  And at the end..guilt seems to eat his dad..and regardless of differences..his dad does the right thing.

My son has been on five interviews and each time he arrived... at his appointment..the position has been filled! Hmmmm.....what a surprise..there is a surplus of unemployed people and not enough jobs!

I guess what I am trying to say here is that so many pass judgment on their children and there comes a point..where the judgments can and will impact them!  Yes it took my son some time to mature but some parents choose to walk away before that beautiful part of life begins.... some parents wait until their children's life is rosy and they are living the life their parents expect! 

I do not know if ever things will be Rosy between Bob and his dad but I do know one thing...parenting never ends...and it never gets easier..or less heartbreaking or joyful..parenting is a gift that sometimes is taken for granted. And if you chose to bring children into the world...its one of your purposes whether you like it or not!

So what happened?

Tuesday he came home and found bags and bags of groceries on his front step..yes his dad did right by him and made sure he had food!  While my ex doesn't really relate to Bob at all..without a doubt he tries and loves him the best way he knows how!

Yesterday he went on another interview..and I do not know the outcome..but I did find out..he can collect unemployment to hold him over..but for him...its not something he wants to do...and just like most men in the U.S. he would rather work!  

As a parent..its difficult to really know what's going on..yes we talk..yes we see each other but as a parent its my job to check and make sure....

They have food on their table...are employed...happy...healthy!

Have you chatted with your kids lately?  If not..you should... and for me no shoulda..no woulda..no coulda...because regardless of the age of my 3 young men...I will always be there for them..and love them..even if I do not like the choices they make for themselves! 

I was the one who signed up for parenting not my boys...and the contract... is forever!

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14 comments • Florida Real Estate Trainer | Daytona Beach After School Training | Midori • January 22 2009 08:01AM